When you’ve been pregnant, how often has someone offered completely uninvited comments about your pregnancy or body?
You know the comments I mean. “Oh gosh, you’re so huge!” and “Are you *sure* there’s only one baby in there?!” or “I thought you pregnant ladies were supposed to glow!” or “But you’ve got two already, how on earth will *you* manage with a third?!”. How about “You want to home birth/hospital birth?! You’re brave, I would *never* put my baby in that risk!”. Or that childless friend who says “Wow, you’re enormous! You know your vagina is gonna be wrecked, right?!”.
You know, that stranger on the bus or the well-meaning family member who makes an offhand observation and then are totally oblivious to the effect that it has on us when they pass judgment and pick at us? Those comments that make us feel about 6 inches tall and leave us doubting ourselves and wondering oh shit, what if I can’t do this after all?
Yeah. Eurch. Those people are the WORST.
As a doula myself, I’ve seen first hand the incredible impact that negative and positive language and imagery can have on a pregnancy and birth. It’s one of the reasons that I love creating birth affirmations. I draw on the births I’ve served at as a doula, and my own experiences as a mother of three.
But you see, the thing is… we *can* do it.
We all have that steady flame burning inside us, refusing to be dimmed, refusing to do anything but be itself. That flame that quietly, calmly tells us screw them. You got this.
I’ve been inspired by that flame to create this newest set of MamaPixie birth affirmation cards, ‘Brighid’. Warm oranges and tonal reds feature on the backgrounds, each one with different words of encouragement and acknowledgment. Named after the Celtic goddess Brighid too, goddess of fertility, healing, and fire. Pretty damn ideal, right?
These are perfect for putting on your birthing altar, placing around your home or tucked into the corner of mirrors to remind you during pregnancy of your strength and to reaffirm your awareness of trust in your body, your birth, and your baby. (And they’re splash-proof too. Just in case.)
They make a wonderful mother blessing gift for an expectant person, or even as a thank you to your favourite doula or midwife.
And these are no teeny tiny cards either, these are A6 size, measuring 105 x 148 mm, and are professionally printed onto thick, glossy, 350GSM cardstock.
Affirmations included are;
– Actually, I can
– My courage is stronger than my fear
– My baby and I are a team. We burn brightly with strength, determination, and focus.
– I face the fire and do not burn
– You are enough. You are so enough. It is amazing how enough you are.
– I’ve got this
– Inhale courage. Exhale fear.
– Yep. This bit sucks. It will pass.
– H.O.P.E. Hold on. Pain ends.
– I am awake. I am aware. I am unafraid.
And if that wasn’t awesome enough, I also offer these as custom sets where you can choose whatever words you want to have on our pre-designed backgrounds. Want something sweary? We can do that! As long as it’s not racist, anti-women, anti-LGBTQ+, we can create whatever you want. Basically, we’re down with sweary, we’re not down with xenophobia and nastiness. (Unless you’re a Nasty Woman. Those we love.)
You need to embrace that flame. Feel that fire. Maybe use some carefully chosen swear words. Listen to bomb-ass music (like this ‘Slay Mama Slay’ playlist over on Spotify.
And then head over to MamaPixie on Etsy to buy yourself a set of these kickass birth affirmations.